Knowing myself, friends, and team

I haven't tell you how I love to answer personality tests, psychological tests, every tests that -hopefully- will reveal who I am, what are my weaknesses, my strengths, and so on. Luckily, yesterday I joined ta'lim, a type of preaching about Islam. At first, I thought this might be boring, like some kind of ta'lim that my mother used to take me to. But apparently, this isn't that boring! Perhaps because the speaker is one of my high school best graduate, so he can understand the audience and how to deliver his topic well.

His topic is about "Ukhuwah Islamiyah", or Islamic relationship among others. There are four steps to reach the truly Ukhuwah Islamiyah, which are ta'aruf, tafahum, ta'awun, and al-Itsar.

Ta'aruf means to know each other. In this section, he asked us to answer a personality test and tell him what the results are. Actually I've ever answer it long time ago when I was a junior in high school. But time may changes everything, right? And last night, I tried to answer it once more, and my results are:
I was shocked, because since I was in junior high, my highest score in multiple intelligence test is always Logical/Mathematics. And now, my Bodily/Kinesthetic intelligence beat it! And in the personality test, why does it call 'The Persuader'? I'm not good in persuading people. At all.

Tafahum means to understand each other. Derived from the word fahim (Arabic), which means understand. In order to understand this section, he asked us to write down in a paper about ourselves - the positive and negative sides of yourself, and a thing that represents us. Then, he (the speaker) took the papers, read it out loud, and everybody have to guess who's that. Beside that, he also asked us to make "River of Life". It's kinda life-themed story telling about ourselves since we born until now. It's so fun, but it took such a quite long time, so he said that we got to continue it sometime.

The next one, taawun, means to undertake the others' burden onto us, so we feel the burden altogether. He simulated this action by playing games. In this games, we have to wake up from this position: all legs are straighten, feet are gathered in the middle, and hands are all tighten each other. This is not as easy as if it is played in pair, like what I've done it before. But then, the speaker changed the game into a..MASS MASSAGE-ing!! We were lined up, then person behind us have to treat our back. After they finished, we turned around and did the same thing as they do.

Last one, al-Itsar, means to precedence others beyond our interest. In this last session, the speaker gave a pack of wafer to a random person in a group.

These components are the basics, but very vital in our social life, especially to maintain a good relationship among people. Without them, our organisation, love life, and others may be ruined.


Bunches of thanks are sent for the speaker and all my 'zuperrr' family Rohis 45 who inspires me all the time and brought back this topics :)